Your helper drops and shatters a dish. She loses a house key. The expensive vacuum comes back scratched and worn. After the third or fourth time, a tempting thought appears: Can I just take it out of her salary?

The short answer: no — and threatening to do so can get you into trouble. Here's what the rules actually say, and what experienced employers do instead.

The Rule: No Salary Deductions for Damage

Unlike regular employees under the Employment Act — where limited deductions for damaged goods are possible after a formal inquiry — Foreign Domestic Workers have stronger protections. Under MOM rules, you cannot deduct from your helper's salary for damage to household items, breakage, or loss.

MOM treats the wear, tear, and occasional breakage of household items as a normal cost of employing a helper — part of your responsibility for her upkeep and the running of your household, not something to be recovered from her pay.

Threatening salary deductions — even casually, even just "to make a point" — is risky. A helper who feels unfairly treated can report it to MOM, and unauthorised salary deductions are taken seriously. What feels like a small warning to you can become a complaint against you.

Bottom line: Do not deduct from her salary for broken, lost, or damaged items. Do not threaten to.

So What Can You Actually Do?

Plenty. The goal is to reduce the cost and frequency of breakage — not to punish.

1. Buy durable, affordable household items

This is the single most common piece of advice from experienced employers, and it works. Premium dishes and high-end appliances take daily heavy use from someone still learning your home. Many employers switch to:

  • Sturdy, inexpensive everyday dishes (e.g., IKEA-type) instead of fine china
  • A mid-range vacuum instead of a premium one
  • Robust, simple-to-use tools with fewer fragile parts

This isn't distrust — it's matching your equipment to real daily use. You'll lose far less, and you'll stress far less every time you hear a clatter from the kitchen.

2. Separate accidents from attitude

A genuine accident — an occasional dropped glass — is just part of running a household. What actually frustrates most employers isn't the breakage; it's the response. A helper who immediately says "I'm sorry, I'll be more careful" is very different from one who shrugs, laughs it off, or pretends she doesn't know what happened.

If the problem is attitude — denial, indifference, or "it's not mine so I don't care" — that's the real issue to address, not the broken item. Be clear and calm: "Accidents happen, and that's okay. But when something breaks or goes missing, I need you to tell me honestly. Pretending you don't know is what bothers me."

3. Demonstrate and reduce risk

Some breakage comes from not knowing how to handle things — overloading a drying rack, using the wrong setting, stacking dishes badly. A quick demonstration of how you want fragile or expensive items handled prevents repeat problems better than any warning.

4. Address frequency directly

Occasional loss or breakage is normal. A constant stream of it — children's shoes and socks going missing, keys lost repeatedly, items broken weekly — is a performance signal. Address it as you would any work issue: clearly, specifically, and with follow-up. If it doesn't improve despite clear feedback, that tells you something about the fit.

When It's a Sign of a Bigger Problem

Frequent careless damage, especially paired with a dismissive attitude, is often less about the items and more about overall carefulness and respect for your home. As many experienced employers put it: a careless adult rarely becomes careful — it's a habit that's hard to change.

If you've given clear feedback and the pattern continues, the honest question isn't "how do I recover the cost," but "is this the right helper for my household?" Our guides on when to change your helper and common mistakes new employers make can help you weigh that.

What About Items Taken Without Asking?

Losing things is one issue; taking household items without permission is another. If your helper borrows or uses your belongings without asking — clothes, accessories, food beyond what's shared — that's a boundaries conversation, not a deductions one. Set the expectation plainly: household items are not to be used or taken without checking with you first. Keep it calm and clear; most issues here come from unclear boundaries rather than bad intent.

The Takeaway

  • ❌ You cannot — and should not threaten to — deduct from your helper's salary for breakage, loss, or damage.
  • ✅ Buy durable, affordable items so breakage costs less.
  • ✅ Judge the attitude, not the accident.
  • ✅ Treat constant carelessness as a performance issue, addressed with clear feedback.
  • ✅ Set clear boundaries on using or taking household items.

Breakage is part of household life. How your helper responds to it — and whether the pattern improves — tells you far more than any single broken plate.

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Based on MOM regulations as of 2026. For official guidance on FDW salary and employer obligations, refer to the MOM website. This article is for informational purposes and not legal advice.